Tear Down Shame

Shame only exists by keeping you  suffering in silence. When you speak truth, shame can't exist.
Transparency is the new sexy 💓
Know what energy you're working with.  Heal one another by coming together. Not apart.💓

For the Love of Self.

What do you completely and totally love about YOUR human being?

After many years of suffering with low self esteem and self worth, I know how vitally important it is to have a loving and healthy relationship with myself. This is something most young girls and women have suffered with or still suffer with.

Self Love IS the quintessential key to living a life you love and manifesting the desires of your heart.
Nothing can truly form and stand on a solid foundation until the relationship you have with SELF has grown, matured, and transformed out of love, kindness, and tenderness from all your life's experiences.

What I know now is that until I became completely and totally in love with my HUMAN BEING, I made choices trying to find someone, something, that could give me what I didn't truly have for myself. Love. Passion for life. Drive. True Desire... the list goes on.
I thought all of those things and the experiences born from those things, were attached to another person.
I thought I had to seek out these experiences instead of realizing these experiences are birthed from within myself.

The foundation I was creating for a solid and beautiful life, that was fulfilling and able to withstand any turmoil or challenges was cracked and rocky. From this place, I made choices settling for the best I thought I could get, have, and deserved.
I didn't know anything. (Beginning of wisdom, as my mother says)

What I've always known was that my HEART was good. My intentions for life, love, and people...no matter who you are, was utterly pure and good.
 Everything about me and around me could be a complete and total disaster but I had SOMETHING I could hold on to, my secret, that I learned to keep private and tucked away, safe from the rest of the world, the capacity my heart had to love just about anything.

And that love...was freakin' HUGE!!

Once I learned that not everyone had this going for them, due to my beautiful and yet disastrous, at times,  run in's with other human beings, I became guarded and unwilling to share the love anymore. In turn, failing to give my heart the full experience of love from any source.

After years of experiencing experiences from this low vibe, heart suffocating place, I got with God and went to work on healing from the things that broke me. Jesus, that was painful.
However, by being broken open again, with the help of God, through the release of all past pain and heartache, I was able to begin forming a complete and total love affair with myself... creating a stable, steady, unshakeable foundation in my heart, mind, and soul.

During this process, I wanted everyone to disappear, go away, leave me ALONE, until my work with self was complete. HA. For the first time in life, I learned to be HAPPY, content, fulfilled in the presence of Myself. But truth is I was never really alone. I was completely happy in the presence of myself, God, and my spirit squad. When I finally started to emerge from the depth of my healing, I was aware, alert, and ready to have true and authentic human experiences with others.

This is what I encourage everyone who has settled for less than what they deserve... and if you have to question if what your experiencing in any situation is what you deserve....you deserve so much more than that. The capacity to experience what we truly deserve isn't even known to us until experiences from our heart's truest desire start manifesting things we didn't even know was possible for us....(maybe other people, but clearly not me was my thought...until now.)
Our new experiences create a domino effect of more experiences of true desire, thus, expanding on what we didn't even know was possible.
(And DON'T sabotage it, thinking its too good to be true so it couldn't possibly be real or last...it's not too good. It's exactly what you've been waiting for, want, and deserve...Thank God right!? About time.) :)

To assist with Self Love... Focus on the ONE thing you KNOW without a fiber of doubt is Good about you. Pure. Your hidden secret that you've learned to keep safe and tucked away.
Use it to give yourself the Love you deserve.



Whether it be standing in a mirror loving on every part of your body, even if you don't, start...until you get its worthy of the love you have neglected it.

Taking selfies of yourself and focusing on your AMAZING human vessel God blessed you with (because only YOU know that you've never felt as beautiful as what other people see.)

Saying kind words to yourself, respecting your own mind and voice, that way no one else's unkind words to you will be tolerated.

Whether its keeping note of the secret prayers you pray for others without them knowing.

(as a few of my examples)

Whatever is GOOD about you...start there....and when you come in to contact with others, interact from That place.


We, HUMAN BEINGS, need to remember that we are innately GOOD before we closed ourselves off due to hard life experiences.
I am very well aware that my soul and spirit is good...pure...a piece of God...but my human self.. that's completely different. That needed work :) That ego...that self worth of mine... phew.

And yet, when I focused on the Goodness of my Human nature, that ONE thing I knew and now actively know again is GOOD, I live out the life of a human being that genuinely cares about other human beings and creating more and more experiences of strong, loving, and lasting relationships to all of life, myself, and others.

BE Love. BE Beautiful.
LoveNElise.com

Healing Your Past Relationships For The Future Of Your New One. A Letter to The Ex.

To the Ex:

lt's not that I didn't love you. I did. I loved you with every piece of me that I could give to you at that time. I loved you the only way I knew how to love. And at that time, I didn't know any better. I didn't know there was any other way to love. I thought that the love we had was all there was.

" How did we fail when we loved each other so much?" You asked me this once. It's not just your fault you know?... Although, I didn't know it then.

What I didn't realize was I could give so much more. I could love so much deeper. 

What I didn't realize was that I couldn't give to you, what I hadn't yet given to myself.

 I couldn't give to you what I didn't even know was missing from me.

I know me better now. I see it very clearly.
I loved you. I still love you, just differently now. 

I love you for the times we had.

 I love you for being my greatest lesson. 

I love you for loving me the best way you knew how.

 I love you for helping me grow. 

I love you for being the reason I learned to love myself (even though we didn't know that's what was happening at the time.)

 I love you for so many reasons.

Without our relationship, I may have repeated the same mistakes over and over.
Loving you, you loving me, in the only way we knew how to love, unknowingly led me to the path of loving myself.

God, it hurt. And that hurt broke me, but it broke me in every way I needed to be broken, so I could be put back together in all the right ways.

What I realize is... I'll never take away from what we had for that time. It was real. As real as it could be. 

But until I became real with myself, love myself, appreciate my journey, embrace my heart ache, my mistakes...my human imperfection, and learn to love Me anyhow...I couldn't truly love myself, and I couldn't love you, in the way you would have needed me to love you in order for us to work.

Until I knew what love really was, what it was really made out of, and what I was truly made of, I expected you to take care of me in ways that only I could have  taken care of me.
And I didn't know why I wasn't being taken care of.

I didn't know you didn't have the capacity to be what I wanted or what I thought I needed.
I expected you to be something, I now know, you could never have been...not because of me but because of you. 

And I didn't know that trying to get you to be who you weren't ready to be wasn't fair to you or to me.

I didn't have what it took to continue fighting for us. 

To stay when it continued to get harder. 

To pray more when it felt more impossible by the day.

 I didn't have what it took to stand up for myself and to stand strong in my convictions for what I truly deserved because I didn't know what I truly deserved.
I expected you to know.
I expected you to see that I deserved better than what you gave me.
I expected that if I could change for you, make you happy, give you everything I had that you would be capable of doing the same for me in return. 

That you would see I was worth the love I always dreamt of...

Not knowing the love I always dreamt of was already in me. It was me. So I looked to you to validate me. Tell me I was doing a good job. But it never happened.
You weren't capable.

 I was just left depleted.
And I hated you for not treating me well. I blamed you for not knowing how to treat me.

But really, I blamed myself for not knowing how to treat me.
I blamed myself for staying so long.
I blamed myself for not seeing my own worth.

And now I know, I've always been worth everything. Without having to prove it.

I now know, it wasn't just your fault.

Through all that we went through, which is just as important, I realized I didn't have what it took to be strong for you, and your brokenness and unhealed areas, because I wasn't strong enough for myself yet. And for that I am sorry.

But you know what? That is okay. 

Why?

Because we weren't meant to last.

You were meant to prepare me.  

And I can only hope, that you know, I prepared you too...if you allow it. 

And perhaps that was the greatest purpose for our coming together.

 To heal each other and prepare each other.

Perhaps, we prepared each other for the one meant to last.

We didn't know it then, But I know it now...  you were the seeds that were planted in my now beautiful garden. 

The garden of my strength, my healing, and my undeniable self love.

Not to say I won't keep growing. Not to say new lessons won't come about. And not to say new areas that need to heal won't show themselves.
But because of us, I learned to do the work. 

I learned to be strong for myself. 

And now I have what it takes to be strong for someone else.

I learned my value and what I have to offer.

 I learned what I deserve and I learned to give it to myself first.
I learned when it's time to walk away and when it's time to stay.

And most importantly, I learned to hold the space for someone else and their broken pieces because I learned to hold the space for my own. 

And because of this, I will choose the one that is able to hold the space for mine as well. And we will be able to grow together.

And the good news is, if you learn from Us, you will do the same.
So thank you for the role you played in my life. 

Thank you for loving me the only way you knew how.
I love you. And can say goodbye to the past and say hello to the future without fear.
Love Always, NElise

You see, relationships are always going to teach you something.Some relationships will be life altering. They are created and designed from the heavens to be this way. It is always about healing and growth. When you love someone so much and have a connection so deep with them, you try to love them even through the pain you are feeling. You don't even understand why you can't let go, don't want to let go, even when you have to.
Sometimes you won't let go until letting go is the only option left....usually because you've allowed the relationship to get to a place of dislike or worse.

 In my case, especially, this was a soul mate connection. Soul mates come to be a mirror for you. They come to unveil all of your hidden wounds. They tend to be like you more than you're even willing to admit.
But it doesn't have to end badly. If you learn. 

Learning, healing, and rising is the only thing that makes your heartache worth it.

BE Love.

 Because love is the only thing that heals. 

Love people for who they were and why you loved them to begin with. 

Set them free in love and set yourself free to love again, so you can love the one meant to stay.

An evolved kind of Love. Commitment.

An Evolved kind of Love.

Now, I am one to believe that everything happens for a reason. Love fails, hearts get broken, etc. 

It's suppose to be this way.

What I also know is that each time this happens, it's a lesson for our growth and evolution.
Personally, each break and failure I've had, especially in love, I've grow, I've evolved, I've changed, and I've transformed.

And most importantly... Because this truly is the most important of the most important... And if you don't learn this, nothing I say will make a difference for your life anyway... 

I'm only half kidding. Anyway.

I've learned to love myself, listen to God, was willing to wait for His best for me, and learned to trust and follow the beat of my own heart more than anything or anyone.

Through that, I've learned to be confident in what I choose and why I choose it.

What I've learned in this ever evolving version of my now self is this...

COMMITMENT. And How IMPORTANT it  is.

In all things... But in my evaluation of my once upon a time self, my clients, my friends, absolute strangers that love sharing their stories with me... RELATIONSHIPS and our commitment to them is a HUGE topic of conversation.

So this is what I've come up with...

Perhaps there is always going to be someone more beautiful, more handsome, more talented, smarter, more creative, richer....the list goes on...than you or the one your with.

But regardless of all that, what if there's one heart that's designed with the capacity to love ALL OF YOU, every bit of you and your "stuff", as deeply as all of those things combined, in any of those people combined times..., I dunno, 1,000,000. ( because really those things are boringly superficial)

Perhaps if we are always searching for the next best thing, we end up with nothing at the end. And then later we wonder, what if...

What if, in the process of searching for the next best thing, we let go of or missed the very one created to give us the thing we needed and wanted the most?... An epic, undeniable kind of Love. A golden heart born and created to love  you in all the ways you only wish someone could love another human being.

How?  How could we miss this?

Because of this illusion that the grass is greener on the other side.

Because we begin our relationships on a rocky foundation stating "if something goes wrong or I become unhappy, I'm out..Deuces!"

Because we haven't spent enough time or had enough experience with ourselves to know what we really want anyway.

I mean, I get it, who really wants to "work" for a relationship right!? I mean, who really wants to fight for the one they claimed to have loved...right? This is a generation of fast, easy, and commitment phobia. Sorry, not sorry.

Really, this is Pathetic. And if you agreed. Shame on you, lol. Jk

The problem with relationships is not the relationship itself, the problem is in our thinking. The problem is  that people started thinking commitment was a suggestion.
 Refusing to remember the love they once felt and why they felt it. Refusing to truly give of themselves and invest in the Love that had them fall in love to begin with.

Instead of finding something new because the sparkle has worn off, or you hit a few bumps...or maybe even trenches along the way, how about renewing the sparkle that was once a flame burning deep within your heart and soul?

What if "breaking up" wasn't an option, what if it was completely off the table?

Perhaps we would find a way to remember what it was we loved to begin with and light a new fire with the one we are with?..

Maybe we would learn to fight a new way without the constant threat of leaving...

Just maybe you've learned to grow, evolve, and truly learn to love and be loved.

And if you haven't, perhaps if the one you are with is willing to fight the good fight with you, stay in the trenches of your healing and evolvement, and has made a commitment to you, let them, love them, and appreciate them. Because real love is rare in a world that wants the next best thing.
Stay committed to what you love. Even if it takes work. 

Confessions of NElise: Perfectionism! (all the lies!)

Below is the assignment God gave me to do to go to work on healing myself. All the things that keep me from moving forwards on the path of Unconditional Love and light. All the things that would keep me from having authentic, self expressed relationships. The things that would keep me from loving totally and completely and receiving that love in return.

I am COMMITTED to doing the work for myself. In doing so, I it will affect those I love in return.

I am committed in seeing all my fragile parts and making them stronger.

If you can't clearly read my work, this is how you do the assignment:

Whatever you struggle with, whatever hurts your feelings...

WRITE IT IN THE CENTER OF THE PAGE

(EX: Mine says- Lies of my Perfectionism)

Then ALLOW yourself to see WHY you are a perfectionist...(or whatever your topic is)

(EX: My imperfection stems from the past... Not feeling good enough, being misunderstood, the desire to be liked, needing to look good to others, etc)

THEN, after you have written everything that comes up for you...

CENTER WHAT PERFECTIONISM (or your topic) LEADS you to or has led you to.

(EX; perfectionism leads to: fake relationships, comparing myself to others, procrastination, trust issues with myself and other, suppression of self, lack of self expression, unrealistic expectations of myself and others...etc)

LAST BUT NOT LEAST:

On a new piece of paper

CENTER "THE TRUTH ABOUT ME"

Then start expressing WHO YOU REALLY ARE,  YOUR TRUTH...the"imperfections" that make you who you are...(that you really need to love about you)

(EX: The truth about me... I'm goofy, I love hard, I'm smart, I have ADD, I'm a paradox, I'm dramatic and entertaining, I learn differently, I'm odd and out of the box, I'm a giver, and so on...)

THEN START LOVING YOU! From where you Are...and you'll soon be where you want to be.

6 months...

I had a prayer only God and I knew
When you'd come along I'd recognize you

I don't give myself away easily
Skeptical I knew i'd be
so I prayed to God that I wouldn't miss you
so he gave me a sign so I'd know the truth
6 months, God whispered, and you will know
your soul will feel what only you and I know.
Trust yourself
You've prayed this before.
Never have you missed him
Stay open once more

It was at 6 months that I knew-
I remembered my prayer
and I recognized you:

" May our 6 months turn to 6 years
that turn to 16 years
that turn to 60...
and when our time runs out
may our love in this life
exist into eternity
and return again in each life after
where we find each other and know
that our 6 months turned into forever
and repeats itself throughout history"

This was my prayer only God and I knew
and at 6 months I knew...
I'd made this prayer to recognize you
So our love could exists in every life
 forever through and through

6 months...

I had a prayer only God and I knew
When you'd come along I'd recognize you

I don't give myself away easily
Skeptical I knew i'd be
so I prayed to God that I wouldn't miss you
so he gave me a sign so I'd know the truth
6 months, God whispered, and you will know
your soul will feel what only you and I know.
Trust yourself
You've prayed this before.
Never have you missed him
Stay open once more

It was at 6 months that I knew-
I remembered my prayer
and I recognized you:

" May our 6 months turn to 6 years
that turn to 16 years
that turn to 60...
and when our time runs out
may our love in this life
exist into eternity
and return again in each life after
where we find each other and know
that our 6 months turned into forever
and repeats itself throughout history"

This was my prayer only God and I knew
and at 6 months I knew...
I'd made this prayer to recognize you
So our love could exists in every life
 forever through and through

Stagnant Energy- Flow Of Love Channeled Message from IZZY

Izzy!!!

NElise!! 

What is this stagnant energy flow of love business?

Good question, Darling! Stagnant- "Showing no activity; dull and sluggish." Hehe, I thought i'd start with the definition so everyone is completely familiar with the word. "Stagnant" is the theme for this month, my dear NElise, as you are currently familiar with what this period looks like. :)
So today, I'm talking about the stagnant energy flow of love. As you can imagine, this is when love energy is showing no activity. It's dull. Sluggish. And for some, DEAD.
This is not just romantic love but love in general. ALLLLL aspects of the word "love." You may wonder how this happens? How love energy just shuts down and REFUSES to resurface in your life?
You may wonder what it looks like to be without love energy? Well my darlings, it shows up in unhappy, bitter, jaded, heartbroken and left for angry human beings. It may even show up subtly depending on how long stagnant energy has been occurring. 
We need to not focus on matters that make no difference, if you even THINK momentarily that love energy is fading or faded in your current life--If you are even asking could this be me? The answer is unequivocally, undeniably YES.
However, since I want to help you beautiful humans soon greatly, I will do this for you...

You may be suffering from SLE (stagnant love energy) of you are experiencing any of the following symptoms, hehe:

• Reoccurring question about love ACTUALLY existing
• Bitterness
• Negativity
• Peripheral haterism

HAHA, Wait, what!? What is Peripheral haterism, Izzy?

hehe, you like that? Yes, I made it up. 
Peripheral haterism: "The act of glaring at someone in a relationship from a side eye position, judging and or hating on why and how they look happy in the kind of relationship you don't have and wish you did."

LOL! WOW! Nicely done, Izzy.

Hehehe, thank you, Anyway... NEXT...

• Jealousy
• Sadness
• Making untrue comments such as: "I'm done with love. I'm good all by myself, I don't need or want a relationship, I don't want them in my life anyway."

Lord, the list... the list goes on my beautiful HB's. (human beings)

OOOh! And another...

• Worry
• fear 

These are all examples of having or creating stagnant love energy. Now, what do we do about this is the REAL question.

1. Admit- Admit your version of love had/has messed you up, broke you down, hurt your heart.
2. THROW A FIT- Yes, do it! Express those emotions. Get 'em out! Re-live that moment with that person, persons, and lastly yourself. Your suppose to only live it once, but human beings don't. They numb it...try to disappear it in the WRONG way... only to relive it again in future relationships about 100,000 more times. So do yourself a favor, Sweeties...do this the first time! ;) I say to lastly throw a fit with yourself because at the end of every heart break caused by whoever...there is YOU. Somehow blaming yourself unconsciously or maybe consciously for that fool decision you made to give your heart once again to someone who didn't know what to do with it. 
3. NEXT... Blast some music! Your favorite song. Now, this is where I am completely and totally serious... Skip this step, don't complain about my advice not working. BLAST SOME MUSIC...not disturb the peace or the public loud, but shut out the world, I'm in my zone kind of loud. 
4. Dance. If you have a mirror, look at it while you dance. Get lost. Look as foolish as you want. Dance until the greatest moment in your life is being created by you in that exact moment. Allow yourself to laugh and feel free.
5. NEXT...DEAL WITH YOURSELF!

Write down these specific questions and then answer them...The FIRST thought is the only one allowed.

• What do I need to learn about Love?
• What beliefs do I have currently that keep me from giving and receiving love unconditionally?
• What is my love relationship like with myself?
• What do I tell myself, internally, about love?
• How can I improve the quality of love I give to myself?
• What will I commit to ONCE A DAY that promotes loving myself and bringing love to someone else? Even if it's a stranger?

These questions and answers, my dear humans, will give you an inside look at your current relationship with love and perhaps the greatest reason love runs stagnant in your life.

By becoming aware and then committing to actively put positive love energy back into your life, FLOW will begin to naturally occur and bring FABULOUS changes into your life.

It only takes awareness and commitment to change something that is dying, not thriving. 

And when it comes to LOVE that is the most important flow that is vital to human survival.

Love energy is and should always be the primary focus with any and all human connections.

Love saves. Love heals. Love is the breath of life. Love is the heartbeat of humanity. 

Create Love. BE Love. And Love returns the favor.

Tata for now!

Bye Beautifuls!

Love, IZZY- The fairy love guide.

The Casualties of being fabulous and Loving YOU!

Hello Darling, Nicole, and all of our readers. Izzy Speaking.
I am most excited about this experience here today as I have LOTS to say. Lots to say on the casualties of being fabulous and loving YOU!

Now you may be wondering, what in the world that means? Well, I am here to tell you.
Many times, when our beautiful human beings choose to live a life that is wonderful, fabulous, self aware, fully present, concious, and self expressed, you will encounter HATERS. You will encounter dreadful experiences from those who once Loved you. They Loved you until you started to Love Yourself More! When you start to smell the roses of your own wonderful being, those who do not rise with you, will fall away from you. And let's be clear, they do NOT fall easily, My Sweeties. They go down hard, and they go out with a bang. They try to make as much noise and as much commotion, giving you as much guilt as you can possibly take, and that they can give.

If you are not surrounded by like minded beings, they higher you try to fly, the harder those you used to "roll with" will  try to keep you at their level. Fight hard against the ankle weights of relationships that no longer serve you!

Do you know you were created to be fabulous? Prosperous? Abundant? RICH? In every sense of the word... Probably not, But if you don't know, now you know. If you did know, there is always MORE for you to learn. 

Spiritual growth,  LOVE of self, Love in every form, Fabulousness, Greatness, Wisdom...the whole sha bang.. It NEVER plateaus. Not until you are released of that human body and return to the spirit, will your growth and the measurment of how much you are capable of loving, creating, and being, will ever plateau. And when you finally return to the spirit.. You will still grow. We learn forever. 

But not to get distracted, Casualty.. I am talking about those you will lose...those who will be hurt... those who will want to keep you small, those who will try and devower your reputation, confidence, self esteem, and steal your dream because they can't stand that you are doing better than they are. 
Well, word to the wise, my beautiful God souls, You came here to stand apart from the crowd, in order to teach the crowd, if the crowd is anyway less than a reflection of who, what , where and when you are trying to create the BEST life EVER.

Being amazing, fabulous, self aware, confident, is NOT a crime. Only those who think you are full of yourself because they have not reached the peak of being full of themselves will have a problem with you. The moment they have something worth being full of themselves about, they will stop hating on you.

It is not their fault, it is simply the way life works. " Birds of a feather, flock together." There is a reason they have sayings like this... " Miserly loves company."... Sayings like this did not just FALL from the sky, My sweeties. They were created as a guide, a guide to show you from the CREATORS of those fabulous sayings experience... The experience of What happens when you try to fly higher than the crowd you were born into, adapted to, whatever. 

Do not allow Misery, small minded, cynical, bitter, No dream having, human beings to keep you from what you were natually designed to have and BE. FABULOUS. To LOVE the HELL out of yourself...literally... And to LOVE the HELL out of others... literally.

Human beings, especially today, carry Demons. Big Demons. Metaphrorically...AND Literally. The world is a terrible state, althought there is a great shift happening. We need concious, FABULOUS, Loving yourself so much that you can love the world because nothing keeps you from your ecstacy and pure light and joy kind of people. We NEED You! we need you to wake up, Be fabulous, love yourself, so you can PLEASE love all these sleeping, loveless, unaware that they are SO loved, people.

Don't get stuck being a casualty to your own life. Those you lose in the battle of Loving Yourself and changing your life is temporary. It does not have to be permanent! As you become fabulous and live the life of your dreams... ONE of Two things happen...
1) Those who wanted to keep you down will see that they couldn't, see that you made it, and be INFLUENCED by what you were able to accomplish... and then want to seek you out to assist in changing their lives because they can now see it IS really possible for someone who was "just like them."

OR

2) They will be so blinded by pity and jealousy that they will still stay haters AND in that case, Pray for them, wish them goodness, and keep on with your merry, fabulous, loving self.

That is all for Now. Toodles, My fabulous human beings, and sweet loving souls!

BE Love. BE Beautiful.
Love, IZZY as channeled by my fabulous human, NELISE! xoxo

Ex In Law Issues.. Channeled By God

Hi God, I need some assistance.
At first I wasn't sure If I should put this in my blog for people to see. Then I realized it may be important for people to understand that even I, a spiritual life coach, have very real issues with people, lol. And if it were not for my relationship and connection with You and spirit, I would be a tornado storm in my emotions.
So, you already know my issue.  I need to release the issue I am having with my grandmother and my ex mother in law. :) Mainly my ex mother in law who I can't help but feel has manipulated my family and uses my grandmothers visits with my kids to speak to them. She continues to go through a third party to talk to them as if I'm not their mother. And my grandma allows it. What really gets me is they seem to be conspiring together. I know my ex mother in law would say she can't reach the kids through me so she goes through my grandmother, but the problem is, she goes through my grandma before hand and I know it. Therefore I have no interest in in making the initiative... 

Hello My Daughter, please breathe. Releasing this negative feeling and emotion is exactly what you must do. It is not healthy for your body, mind, or spirit to harbor negativity due to someone else's actions. As I have told you many times, as you coach your clients, anytime someone does something against you, is negative towards you, or hurtful, it is reflective of their inner being. It is a reflection of a way of being they are used to functioning in based on how they were raised, or a way of being they have adopted because of their own hurts and pain.
Being negative back is never the proper response. When it comes up for you as a response, it is simply because it is triggering a sensitive area within you. 
This is the beauty about human beings. Until the end of time, until the end of your current human life, you will have areas of your life that will show you it needs attention and healing. There is no human being on the planet that even for a split second doesn't FEEL the affect of negativity. Those who are greatly evolved simply do not let negativity penetrate their heart. They energetically feel what someone is doing in negativity, even towards them, but they don't make it mean anything other than what is TRUTH. And the truth is, the person doing something that is manipulative, or hurtful towards another, is simply hurt within themselves.

In the case of your ex- mother in law, she is a very different case. As I am sure you already know on a soul level.
 I understand greatly your upset of feeling manipulated. However, it goes deeper than that. As do all things that cause you great upset. It is never the exact situation that causes a human being, or you in this case to react to pain, it is what you make it mean based on a conversation you have not healed, or confronted.

So, As I said. In your case your mother in law, in her heart believes she is doing nothing wrong. In her mind, her using your grandmother to speak to your kids is simply a matter of... She wants what she wants and she knows a way to get it regardless of what you think or feel. Manipulative? Maybe. AND YET, My daughter, she is well aware that she has limited relationship with you and what her heart needs due to her own hurt and pain is a relationship with those "grandbabies." And that overrides any upset that you may have.

This is where I require MORE of you, as a child of God, who is open to all my wisdom and understanding to CHOOSE compassion. To rise above what you think she is knowingly doing to you. Is it knowingly what she is doing to you? YES. Is she doing it to Spite and disrespect you? No.
And as you are aware of my words, wisdom, and direction in your life, I expect you to "BE Love. BE Beautiful." :)
This means doing the highest good of others and yourself. So bravo for coming for assistance. Bravo that you came to the greatest Spiritual Life Coach of all, Me! GOD. :) 
By doing what is in the best and highest good for the HEART of your ex mother in law, whose heart has also been broken due to her life's circumstances, allow her to speak to the children more.
By doing what is in the best interest for yourself based on how she treats you, don't get on the phone with her. 
Don't deal with her other than allowing her to speak to the children. 
For you to feel as if you are doing your part. Set Standards. Set your intention.

Is once a week reasonable? Is twice a week reasonable? Every other week reasonable?
Set what is reasonable and fair for her to be in communication with your kids.

It may not always be the easiest thing to do, My daughter, to BE Love to someone who is less than lovable in their human nature towards you, but these are the times that you must remember, it is not YOU, it is them. It is their hurt and pain that has caused them to become less than lovable. And it is their lack of understanding and their inauthentic relationship to their own SELF that has them act outside of who I created them to be. LOVE.
So be that for them. Be Love. But don't ever let someone get away with hurting you and not addressing it. This goes for all of my children. Separate yourself from those who harm you, hurt you, have no good intention for you, but do it out of respect for yourself, and compassion for them.
Because your CHILDREN are who she desires to be in relationship with, for the sake of her heart, let it go. :) Rise above the negativity and what you see as "wrong doing." Let her BE Love for your children. Let them BE Love for her. It may be the only source she feels she has. And BE Love for yourself by keeping her out of your personal space, energy, and aura. 

I hope this helped. I truly hope by My daughter, NElise sharing her experience, you can see how this principle works for the life of ALL my beautiful souls who have similar troubles.
No one is exempt from the FEELING of negativity, simply know what to do with it, and channel it as a way to grow and have compassion for others. After all, you have come to this physical world to be of service to each other by what you learn via your own personal experience.

Be well for now,
-GOD. :)

Channeling Izzy on Authentic Truth.

Hi again, Izzy. What is it that you wish people to know about Authentic truth? We did the channeled video about this today but I have not posted it yet... Maybe tomorrow...

Hehe, maybe tomorrow! Yes and hello, my sweet NElise! I would love you to post that video tomorrow. I know this is all so new to you... putting your beautiful face out there for the world to see. But, this is what you have been created to do! This is why you are so excellent at it. And just like many human beings functioning in that beautiful, amazing, but limited human mind, FEAR can get in the way. Fear is natural. You are naturally designed to have some fear. The right kind of fear. 
 Fear stops you from stepping into oncoming traffic, so as everything, balance is necessary. Fear keeps you safe. AND YET! If you are unbalanced and allow it to ruuun your beautiful little life, LITTLE is what your life shall stay.
So we don't want that now do we? 
We would not want to stay small and limited now would we? Who would want that? That would be a dreadful life to live. This is why I love and have chosen to stay a fairy guide. I come and go as I please. I am free. And the human body is a wonderment but it is in FACT--Limiting.
I do not like that.
Human beings are SO special, the spirit that functions the human body is nothing less than AH-MAZING... That you can live in that body, in this time, in this world, experiencing humanity, the good and the ...mmmm, CHALLENGING! To put it nicely. Being Love, spreading Love, even to those that are not in tune with Spirit and act outside of their true nature and come off as Unlovable, and you still manage not to LOSE your true nature (well we hope...on most occassion, lol) dealing with the unpleasantness of SOME human beings Nature, is quite extraodinary.
So my humans, give yourself a hand for being able to survive the ups and downs of humanity and the emotional rollercoasters it comes with, lol.

Before I get too far off track, as I like to talk ALOT, Authentic Truth! YES. HAVE IT!

It is the most freeing way to live as a human being. BE truthful to who you are, what you want, and your path and journey in this life as you walk it with the Divine. GOD. JESUS. ANGELS. SPIRIT GUIDES. As NElise says, "The Heavenly community."
The Team. We are here for you.
Many people hide who they are because of fear! Well, Where is that getting you!? Are you happy? Are you fulfilled and satisfied being afraid of what people think?

If you say Yes, you are not telling the truth. To me or to yourself, lol.
Now, as God confirms, because We are high spiritual beings, We are all good, All loving. We have the UTMOST respect for people, nature, animals, community, family, LIFE! You must always have respect and kindness when speaking your truth.

I shall leave you with this... If ANYONE that is trying to tell you how to walk your path in life is NOT LIVING the life you wish to live or have (AND more than materially)... they are not QUALIFIED to give you advice. 

You must seek out those in your tribe. You must surround yourself with those who understand your path... not those who try and tear down your path due to their small capacity to expand beyond what they know with their own limited understanding. :) 

It is your GOD given right, to move above anyone who brings you down. Being AUTHENTIC means living the life you know deep in your SOUL is meant for you to live. Regardless of what Society says you should be living based on any background you come from. Or, even your current financial situation, or any other obstacles you face.

Be truthful in your communication. And Start with the communication you have with yourSELF. There is no need to try and convince anyone of a truth that you are not certain is YOUR truth because you have been influenced by so many OTHER truths that are not your own.

Take the time to be quiet, listen to that beautiful mind  of yours when it is not beating itself up for all the "screw ups, failures, mistakes, or missed opportunities" you have experienced. 

After all, it's apart of your growth to have and experience all of these things you have told yourself. It is simply not necessary or healthy to LIVE in it all the days of your life. 

LEARN THE LESSONS and move on. Hug yourself, hehe. LOVE yourself. Be Compassionate to yourself. AND KNOW...where your journey in this life begins and start walking. TRUTHFULLY. And without fear. 

When you take the first step. We, in the high realms, God, come together perfectly to bring you what you need to continue the journey. We never let you fall down for good. 

All falls are simply lessons to collect on your journey to the top... so that you may stand strong and teach all you have learned on your way up with compassion and love.

 Embrace them. And be true to YOU. And you will be unconditionally true and Love for others.

Tata for now, my dear sweet, fascinating Human Beings.

BE Love. BE Beautiful. 
Love NElise ...and Izzy, the Spiritual Love Guide.