Healing Your Past Relationships For The Future Of Your New One. A Letter to The Ex.

To the Ex:

lt's not that I didn't love you. I did. I loved you with every piece of me that I could give to you at that time. I loved you the only way I knew how to love. And at that time, I didn't know any better. I didn't know there was any other way to love. I thought that the love we had was all there was.

" How did we fail when we loved each other so much?" You asked me this once. It's not just your fault you know?... Although, I didn't know it then.

What I didn't realize was I could give so much more. I could love so much deeper. 

What I didn't realize was that I couldn't give to you, what I hadn't yet given to myself.

 I couldn't give to you what I didn't even know was missing from me.

I know me better now. I see it very clearly.
I loved you. I still love you, just differently now. 

I love you for the times we had.

 I love you for being my greatest lesson. 

I love you for loving me the best way you knew how.

 I love you for helping me grow. 

I love you for being the reason I learned to love myself (even though we didn't know that's what was happening at the time.)

 I love you for so many reasons.

Without our relationship, I may have repeated the same mistakes over and over.
Loving you, you loving me, in the only way we knew how to love, unknowingly led me to the path of loving myself.

God, it hurt. And that hurt broke me, but it broke me in every way I needed to be broken, so I could be put back together in all the right ways.

What I realize is... I'll never take away from what we had for that time. It was real. As real as it could be. 

But until I became real with myself, love myself, appreciate my journey, embrace my heart ache, my mistakes...my human imperfection, and learn to love Me anyhow...I couldn't truly love myself, and I couldn't love you, in the way you would have needed me to love you in order for us to work.

Until I knew what love really was, what it was really made out of, and what I was truly made of, I expected you to take care of me in ways that only I could have  taken care of me.
And I didn't know why I wasn't being taken care of.

I didn't know you didn't have the capacity to be what I wanted or what I thought I needed.
I expected you to be something, I now know, you could never have been...not because of me but because of you. 

And I didn't know that trying to get you to be who you weren't ready to be wasn't fair to you or to me.

I didn't have what it took to continue fighting for us. 

To stay when it continued to get harder. 

To pray more when it felt more impossible by the day.

 I didn't have what it took to stand up for myself and to stand strong in my convictions for what I truly deserved because I didn't know what I truly deserved.
I expected you to know.
I expected you to see that I deserved better than what you gave me.
I expected that if I could change for you, make you happy, give you everything I had that you would be capable of doing the same for me in return. 

That you would see I was worth the love I always dreamt of...

Not knowing the love I always dreamt of was already in me. It was me. So I looked to you to validate me. Tell me I was doing a good job. But it never happened.
You weren't capable.

 I was just left depleted.
And I hated you for not treating me well. I blamed you for not knowing how to treat me.

But really, I blamed myself for not knowing how to treat me.
I blamed myself for staying so long.
I blamed myself for not seeing my own worth.

And now I know, I've always been worth everything. Without having to prove it.

I now know, it wasn't just your fault.

Through all that we went through, which is just as important, I realized I didn't have what it took to be strong for you, and your brokenness and unhealed areas, because I wasn't strong enough for myself yet. And for that I am sorry.

But you know what? That is okay. 

Why?

Because we weren't meant to last.

You were meant to prepare me.  

And I can only hope, that you know, I prepared you too...if you allow it. 

And perhaps that was the greatest purpose for our coming together.

 To heal each other and prepare each other.

Perhaps, we prepared each other for the one meant to last.

We didn't know it then, But I know it now...  you were the seeds that were planted in my now beautiful garden. 

The garden of my strength, my healing, and my undeniable self love.

Not to say I won't keep growing. Not to say new lessons won't come about. And not to say new areas that need to heal won't show themselves.
But because of us, I learned to do the work. 

I learned to be strong for myself. 

And now I have what it takes to be strong for someone else.

I learned my value and what I have to offer.

 I learned what I deserve and I learned to give it to myself first.
I learned when it's time to walk away and when it's time to stay.

And most importantly, I learned to hold the space for someone else and their broken pieces because I learned to hold the space for my own. 

And because of this, I will choose the one that is able to hold the space for mine as well. And we will be able to grow together.

And the good news is, if you learn from Us, you will do the same.
So thank you for the role you played in my life. 

Thank you for loving me the only way you knew how.
I love you. And can say goodbye to the past and say hello to the future without fear.
Love Always, NElise

You see, relationships are always going to teach you something.Some relationships will be life altering. They are created and designed from the heavens to be this way. It is always about healing and growth. When you love someone so much and have a connection so deep with them, you try to love them even through the pain you are feeling. You don't even understand why you can't let go, don't want to let go, even when you have to.
Sometimes you won't let go until letting go is the only option left....usually because you've allowed the relationship to get to a place of dislike or worse.

 In my case, especially, this was a soul mate connection. Soul mates come to be a mirror for you. They come to unveil all of your hidden wounds. They tend to be like you more than you're even willing to admit.
But it doesn't have to end badly. If you learn. 

Learning, healing, and rising is the only thing that makes your heartache worth it.

BE Love.

 Because love is the only thing that heals. 

Love people for who they were and why you loved them to begin with. 

Set them free in love and set yourself free to love again, so you can love the one meant to stay.

Ex In Law Issues.. Channeled By God

Hi God, I need some assistance.
At first I wasn't sure If I should put this in my blog for people to see. Then I realized it may be important for people to understand that even I, a spiritual life coach, have very real issues with people, lol. And if it were not for my relationship and connection with You and spirit, I would be a tornado storm in my emotions.
So, you already know my issue.  I need to release the issue I am having with my grandmother and my ex mother in law. :) Mainly my ex mother in law who I can't help but feel has manipulated my family and uses my grandmothers visits with my kids to speak to them. She continues to go through a third party to talk to them as if I'm not their mother. And my grandma allows it. What really gets me is they seem to be conspiring together. I know my ex mother in law would say she can't reach the kids through me so she goes through my grandmother, but the problem is, she goes through my grandma before hand and I know it. Therefore I have no interest in in making the initiative... 

Hello My Daughter, please breathe. Releasing this negative feeling and emotion is exactly what you must do. It is not healthy for your body, mind, or spirit to harbor negativity due to someone else's actions. As I have told you many times, as you coach your clients, anytime someone does something against you, is negative towards you, or hurtful, it is reflective of their inner being. It is a reflection of a way of being they are used to functioning in based on how they were raised, or a way of being they have adopted because of their own hurts and pain.
Being negative back is never the proper response. When it comes up for you as a response, it is simply because it is triggering a sensitive area within you. 
This is the beauty about human beings. Until the end of time, until the end of your current human life, you will have areas of your life that will show you it needs attention and healing. There is no human being on the planet that even for a split second doesn't FEEL the affect of negativity. Those who are greatly evolved simply do not let negativity penetrate their heart. They energetically feel what someone is doing in negativity, even towards them, but they don't make it mean anything other than what is TRUTH. And the truth is, the person doing something that is manipulative, or hurtful towards another, is simply hurt within themselves.

In the case of your ex- mother in law, she is a very different case. As I am sure you already know on a soul level.
 I understand greatly your upset of feeling manipulated. However, it goes deeper than that. As do all things that cause you great upset. It is never the exact situation that causes a human being, or you in this case to react to pain, it is what you make it mean based on a conversation you have not healed, or confronted.

So, As I said. In your case your mother in law, in her heart believes she is doing nothing wrong. In her mind, her using your grandmother to speak to your kids is simply a matter of... She wants what she wants and she knows a way to get it regardless of what you think or feel. Manipulative? Maybe. AND YET, My daughter, she is well aware that she has limited relationship with you and what her heart needs due to her own hurt and pain is a relationship with those "grandbabies." And that overrides any upset that you may have.

This is where I require MORE of you, as a child of God, who is open to all my wisdom and understanding to CHOOSE compassion. To rise above what you think she is knowingly doing to you. Is it knowingly what she is doing to you? YES. Is she doing it to Spite and disrespect you? No.
And as you are aware of my words, wisdom, and direction in your life, I expect you to "BE Love. BE Beautiful." :)
This means doing the highest good of others and yourself. So bravo for coming for assistance. Bravo that you came to the greatest Spiritual Life Coach of all, Me! GOD. :) 
By doing what is in the best and highest good for the HEART of your ex mother in law, whose heart has also been broken due to her life's circumstances, allow her to speak to the children more.
By doing what is in the best interest for yourself based on how she treats you, don't get on the phone with her. 
Don't deal with her other than allowing her to speak to the children. 
For you to feel as if you are doing your part. Set Standards. Set your intention.

Is once a week reasonable? Is twice a week reasonable? Every other week reasonable?
Set what is reasonable and fair for her to be in communication with your kids.

It may not always be the easiest thing to do, My daughter, to BE Love to someone who is less than lovable in their human nature towards you, but these are the times that you must remember, it is not YOU, it is them. It is their hurt and pain that has caused them to become less than lovable. And it is their lack of understanding and their inauthentic relationship to their own SELF that has them act outside of who I created them to be. LOVE.
So be that for them. Be Love. But don't ever let someone get away with hurting you and not addressing it. This goes for all of my children. Separate yourself from those who harm you, hurt you, have no good intention for you, but do it out of respect for yourself, and compassion for them.
Because your CHILDREN are who she desires to be in relationship with, for the sake of her heart, let it go. :) Rise above the negativity and what you see as "wrong doing." Let her BE Love for your children. Let them BE Love for her. It may be the only source she feels she has. And BE Love for yourself by keeping her out of your personal space, energy, and aura. 

I hope this helped. I truly hope by My daughter, NElise sharing her experience, you can see how this principle works for the life of ALL my beautiful souls who have similar troubles.
No one is exempt from the FEELING of negativity, simply know what to do with it, and channel it as a way to grow and have compassion for others. After all, you have come to this physical world to be of service to each other by what you learn via your own personal experience.

Be well for now,
-GOD. :)

Channeling Izzy on Authentic Truth.

Hi again, Izzy. What is it that you wish people to know about Authentic truth? We did the channeled video about this today but I have not posted it yet... Maybe tomorrow...

Hehe, maybe tomorrow! Yes and hello, my sweet NElise! I would love you to post that video tomorrow. I know this is all so new to you... putting your beautiful face out there for the world to see. But, this is what you have been created to do! This is why you are so excellent at it. And just like many human beings functioning in that beautiful, amazing, but limited human mind, FEAR can get in the way. Fear is natural. You are naturally designed to have some fear. The right kind of fear. 
 Fear stops you from stepping into oncoming traffic, so as everything, balance is necessary. Fear keeps you safe. AND YET! If you are unbalanced and allow it to ruuun your beautiful little life, LITTLE is what your life shall stay.
So we don't want that now do we? 
We would not want to stay small and limited now would we? Who would want that? That would be a dreadful life to live. This is why I love and have chosen to stay a fairy guide. I come and go as I please. I am free. And the human body is a wonderment but it is in FACT--Limiting.
I do not like that.
Human beings are SO special, the spirit that functions the human body is nothing less than AH-MAZING... That you can live in that body, in this time, in this world, experiencing humanity, the good and the ...mmmm, CHALLENGING! To put it nicely. Being Love, spreading Love, even to those that are not in tune with Spirit and act outside of their true nature and come off as Unlovable, and you still manage not to LOSE your true nature (well we hope...on most occassion, lol) dealing with the unpleasantness of SOME human beings Nature, is quite extraodinary.
So my humans, give yourself a hand for being able to survive the ups and downs of humanity and the emotional rollercoasters it comes with, lol.

Before I get too far off track, as I like to talk ALOT, Authentic Truth! YES. HAVE IT!

It is the most freeing way to live as a human being. BE truthful to who you are, what you want, and your path and journey in this life as you walk it with the Divine. GOD. JESUS. ANGELS. SPIRIT GUIDES. As NElise says, "The Heavenly community."
The Team. We are here for you.
Many people hide who they are because of fear! Well, Where is that getting you!? Are you happy? Are you fulfilled and satisfied being afraid of what people think?

If you say Yes, you are not telling the truth. To me or to yourself, lol.
Now, as God confirms, because We are high spiritual beings, We are all good, All loving. We have the UTMOST respect for people, nature, animals, community, family, LIFE! You must always have respect and kindness when speaking your truth.

I shall leave you with this... If ANYONE that is trying to tell you how to walk your path in life is NOT LIVING the life you wish to live or have (AND more than materially)... they are not QUALIFIED to give you advice. 

You must seek out those in your tribe. You must surround yourself with those who understand your path... not those who try and tear down your path due to their small capacity to expand beyond what they know with their own limited understanding. :) 

It is your GOD given right, to move above anyone who brings you down. Being AUTHENTIC means living the life you know deep in your SOUL is meant for you to live. Regardless of what Society says you should be living based on any background you come from. Or, even your current financial situation, or any other obstacles you face.

Be truthful in your communication. And Start with the communication you have with yourSELF. There is no need to try and convince anyone of a truth that you are not certain is YOUR truth because you have been influenced by so many OTHER truths that are not your own.

Take the time to be quiet, listen to that beautiful mind  of yours when it is not beating itself up for all the "screw ups, failures, mistakes, or missed opportunities" you have experienced. 

After all, it's apart of your growth to have and experience all of these things you have told yourself. It is simply not necessary or healthy to LIVE in it all the days of your life. 

LEARN THE LESSONS and move on. Hug yourself, hehe. LOVE yourself. Be Compassionate to yourself. AND KNOW...where your journey in this life begins and start walking. TRUTHFULLY. And without fear. 

When you take the first step. We, in the high realms, God, come together perfectly to bring you what you need to continue the journey. We never let you fall down for good. 

All falls are simply lessons to collect on your journey to the top... so that you may stand strong and teach all you have learned on your way up with compassion and love.

 Embrace them. And be true to YOU. And you will be unconditionally true and Love for others.

Tata for now, my dear sweet, fascinating Human Beings.

BE Love. BE Beautiful. 
Love NElise ...and Izzy, the Spiritual Love Guide.

Fresh Beginnings. Channeled By Izzy, My Spirit Guide

Hi Izzy, I feel your presence and light flittering about. Thank You for joining me as I begin a new adventure with the Daily Divine Love Channeler. I have to admit I am really bummed that I have to start over after so much hard work went into creating it the first time...

Hellllo My sweet, beautiful Human! I know, darling. I know how frightfully dreadful it can be to have to start over. But as We... WE as in God, the heavenly community as you call it... WE know what is best. And my dear, sweet girl, New Beginnings, A fresh start, is what makes the miraculous happen.

Count the first run you did, creating the DDLC, the Daily Divine Love Channeler, with US, US as in God and the heavenly community, for those of you who are unfamiliar with what I am speaking about when I say WE, or US...etc. Consider what you did with Us, my dear NElise as a test run.

Now all the kinks have been worked out. And we can get this show on the road!

UH HUM! For all of you who do not know me, My name is IZZY. I am a Spirit Guide. A fairy Spirit Guide I must have you know.

I am truly the LOVE Guide, for my dear human, NElise. I am here to guide her in all areas pertaining to the big L-O-V-E!  We are going into the world helping humans connect back to their essence, their God essence through the healing power of love. Love of Self, Love of God and Spirit, Love of the other human beings on the planet, Love in general. Every facet of Love, I cover, as I channel through NElise for You. My other beautiful Human beings.

She has another guide as well, however, I am the one you will hear from the most, as I am guiding her into the amazing life work she has come to do to help all of you! And you will hear her Channel GOD, Yes, the head honcho. The greatest, most Loving, all knowing, perfect, I AM.

As I said, I cover the sweet love stuff. 

So I am so glad to get acquainted with ALL of you who will come to see and hear my communication with my Shy, sweet, quiet but bold, NELISE. She and I are more alike than she is aware of, and YET she is starting to come into the knowing of this Divine Truth. She KNOWS but she does not KNOW. You will get to see her Blossom like the beautiful flower I live upon, hehe.

So count yourself as lucky to see her growth! You will be surprised at how my sweet butterfly shows up when I am not channeling through her, I am much more flamboyant. And she is much more reserved and quiet, but that will only be for a little longer. Possibly.

Well, I have chatted enough now. Go well, my sweet human beings. Take care of yourself. Take care of the beautiful Vessels God has given you. Love, Love, Love.

BE Love. BE Beautiful.

Love, NElise...and IZZY, the amaaaazing Spiritual Love Guide

www.loveNElise.com